How to Attract Men

It should be simple to attract a man. There always seem to be more of them wherever you go and many are desperate for any kind of female attention. But it is not so easy. Women everywhere have trouble attracting a guy. The main reason is lack of experience. They just don’t know how to go about finding a man, engaging them in conversation, and reeling them in.

The big question is how to be more attractive to men. It is more than just looking good, although that is important, too. You need to know how to act, what to say, and know what you are looking for. Although methods used to attract men can be debated, there are some tried and true ways that have proved successful. You may not be able to attract every man you set your sights on but your odds of attracting the right ones will definitely improve.


Probably the first step you need to take in order to attract a man is confidence. You need to know what you want and go get it. Men are attracted to strong women. Being submissive, shy, and hiding in the corner of the room are not very attractive traits.

Men like women who have goals and motivation. Women who have plans for a future or know what they want out of life are far more likely to attract the right guy. If you lack confidence, then you need to work on building it up. The only one who can give you confidence is yourself.

Know How To Flirt

How to Attract MenFlirting is the main method people use to attract others. In some people, it comes naturally. In others, it is much harder to do. It is a combination of verbal communication plus body language. Many women have perfected the art of flirting.

When you flirt, you should always make eye contact and smile. Be friendly and open. Our body language says a lot about our intentions. Use it to your benefit. When flirting, always face your body towards the person you are talking to and lean slightly towards them. Do not cross your arms as that is a signal that there is a boundary the person should not cross. Touching the person lightly such as on the arm or knee is a strong signal that you are interested in them.

Dress To Success

You have to dress attractively. Men are visual and physical appearance is always the first thing they notice. This doesn’t mean you need to go out and work on that perfect bikini body. Not everyone can look like that and sometimes it just isn’t worth all the work (we’ll talk about self-image later).

Not all clothes look good on everyone. Just because a mini dress works for the girl sitting next to you does not mean it will look good on you. Find clothes that are flattering for your body and will present you in the best way. Shop around at a variety of stores. You don’t have to wear designer clothes but don’t be afraid to spend a little extra money. Clothes do not define who you are but they do make a statement and get you noticed.

Play On The Senses

Men have other senses besides vision. The sense of smell is a powerful trait. Certain scents can trigger long forgotten memories in people. It can remind them of past events and trigger certain emotions.

Choosing the right perfume is a great way to play against a man’s sense of smell. Like pheromones, a nice perfume can create chemical changes in the brain to put them in a more receptive mood. In other words, perfume can catch a guy’s attention. Put on some perfume and try walking past a man that you are interested in. The lingering scented trail should grab his attention and lead him right to you.

Positive Attitude

Nobody likes a downer. A downer is a person who is negative all the time and never sees anything good or positive to talk about. A negative person can kill a good mood and bring down a party. Don’t be a negative downer.

Men like women who are positive and upbeat. When you are trying to attract a man, don’t complain about the things going wrong in your life. If you had a bad day at work or your mother is driving you crazy by calling everyday, don’t bring it up. Guys don’t want to hear that when they first meet you.

You need to be in a positive frame of mind. Try to think the best of any situation. Even if something bad happens when you meet a guy, like someone walking past and spilling their drink on you, just keep it together. Laugh it off. The guy will find that kind of attitude so much more appealing.

Get Out And Socialize

If you hang out in your apartment all the time with your cat Fluffy, you are not likely to meet any men. Men are Out There and to attract a man, you have to go Out There. Get out of the house and go be social.

There are a number of places where you can meet men. There are clubs, bars, parties, social events, get together with friends, hook-ups, and practically anywhere there is a crowd of people. It depends on what you are comfortable with and what you are looking for. But you have to put some effort into it.

When being social, walk up to a man and say hello. Introduce yourself and start asking questions. Don’t be nervous because men are usually more nervous than women when it comes to meeting people. Plus, men like a woman who makes the first move. If you want to get a guy to come up to you, make eye contact and smile. Stand in the middle of the room so you can be noticed. Don’t hang out in the corners.

Know How To Communicate

While staring into each other’s eyes may be romantic and soul-searching, it also doesn’t tell you a while lot about a person. That is why people learned to speak. To get to know a person, and hence attract a man, you have to be able to communicate with them. That means you need to be able to hold up your end of a conversation.

Communicating with a man is the best way to let them know what kind of person you are. You can inform them your likes, dislikes, and any information about yourself. You can also find out what kind of guy your man really is (or at least says he is).

But communicating is more than that. Communicating means having something interesting to say. This is the problem many people have. They never know what to say. If you have trouble speaking to men you just met, make up a list of topics or conversation starters beforehand. Get them to talking about themselves (men love to do that). But it is not an interview so don’t keep asking questions.

Have A Good Self Image

Having a good self image means being comfortable with who you are. So you may not be a size 2 or have a perfect complexion. While there are ways to correct those problems, it takes time, effort, and some little money. The healthiest thing to do is to love yourself for who you are, no matter what.

A lot of women fret because the man that they like does not notice them. Well, if the guy does not notice you, especially after you have tried to get his attention, then he just may not be the right man for you. The right man is going to be someone who loves you for exactly who you are right now, faults and everything. If you have a low self image and do not love yourself, how can you expect anyone else to?

Build Suspense

It may be stereotyped but women love to talk. In fact, women love to talk about themselves and everything going on in their life. Usually, men are content to let women do all the talking when they first meet. It means the man doesn’t have to think about keeping the conversation going (a little secret there).

When you first meet a guy, you do not have to tell him your entire life story in the first five minutes. Sure, you need to tell him something about yourself. But it is a good idea to dole the information out a little at a time. Let the suspense build and eave some things to share the next time you meet. If you get a date out of the guy, then you can start sharing more.

Choose Your Standards

Just because you want to attract a man does not mean you want to attract any man. You need to decide what kind of man you want to attract. What are your standards? Setting the bar for what kid of guy you want defines who you are looking for and where you can find them.

If you have low standards, you are going to be able to attract a man relatively easy. Just go down the nearest bar and you are almost guaranteed success. However, if your standards are higher, then you will have to look a little harder for the right man. Do you want your man to have a good job? Does he need to be able to cook? Does he like kids? Know who you are looking for and don’t settle for less.

Have A Good Time

When going out to try to attract a man, don’t be nervous, uptight, or scared. Meeting men should be fun. Get out there and have a good time. Even if you meet some losers or get rejected, try to laugh it off.

Rejection is always hard and if you are trying to attract someone, eventually you will get rejected. It hurts because it shakes up your self-esteem. But you will find that men are more afraid of rejection than you are. It is often the guy that gets rejected because they are the ones making the first move. But if you should get the brush off, don’t take it to heart.

Another thing about having a good time is to realize that there are a lot of men (and I mean a lot) who act like complete jerks around women. They may think it makes them seem cool or maybe they just never learned any manners. Whatever the reason, these are the type of guys to ignore. Don’t let them ruin your evening or your attempts at attracting the right man.

Don’t Be Too Easy

The dictionary is full of a lot of words to describe a woman that is too easy to pick up and none of them are very nice. Being too easy is a sign of desperation and can brand you in a negative way. If word gets around that you are easy to pick up, then you will start attracting the wrong sort of men.

Don’t be too eager to go out with a man. Let them chase you a bit. By being a bit elusive, you build up more respect from a man. But don’t play hard to get, either. Some men might give up easily and pursue other interests.

Be Yourself

When learning how to attract men, remember to be yourself. Never, ever act like something you are not just to attract a man. You want the guy to like you, right? Well, you need them to like you for the real you, not someone fake. Always be yourself. If the guy doesn’t like you for who you really are, he isn’t the right one for you.

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