How To Attract Women
Women are elusive and mysterious creatures. As men, we think we know what a woman is thinking but in reality, we have no clue. Men do not know what a woman wants and that is why it is so hard to attract them. Granted some men are better at it than others. But for the most part, men are at a disadvantage at attracting women. We don’t know how to approach a woman. We are afraid of rejection. We are afraid of finding someone who acts just like our mothers. Okay, maybe not that last one but you get the idea.
The truth is it is hard to attract women. They simply don’t make it easy. So how do you attract women? There are some steps and methods that you can use. The good news is that men can learn how to be more attractive to women. Here is some information to help our fellow men out.
Look Your Best
Women love a good-looking man but let’s face it, not everyone is Brad Pitt. We only have so much to work with. When meeting women, a man should make sure he always looks his best.
Pay attention to what you are wearing. It should compliment you and be appropriate for where you are going. You wouldn’t want to wear an expensive suit to a rock concert. The same thing applies if you go to a nice club. Dress the part and don’t be afraid to spend a little money on the wardrobe.
Men do not always pay attention to personal hygiene, either. And believe me, women notice that sort of thing. Make sure you brush your teeth, take a shower, and put on some cologne.
Give The Right Compliments
Beautiful women get told all the time how beautiful they are. While it is nice to give a compliment, you don’t want to be just like everyone else. Social scenes are full of competition. Be original and you will stand out more.
When complimenting a woman, say something nice about anything other than her physical beauty. Compliment something that she has some control or choice over such as her outfit, earrings, shoes, or necklace. You can compliment her smile but say something more than just ‘it’s nice’. Be creative. Say she has a very warm or bright and energetic smile. You don’t have to be a poet. Just don’t be boring.
Be Confident In Yourself
Clubs and social scenes are full of men who lack confidence. They hesitate to approach a woman and when they do, they stutter and have trouble speaking. Be confident. Women love a confident man.
Being confident gives a signal that you are in charge, that you know what you want and aren’t afraid of anything. You are sure of yourself and have goals. Being confident tells a woman that you can handle anything she throws at you.
If you lack confidence, then you need to work on it or at least be able to fake it. Build up your own self confidence by setting goals for yourself. Start out by walking up to a woman. After you can do that, the next goal should be to carry on a conversation. Each time you are able to complete one of these goals, your confidence will get a boost.
Try To Relax
Being nervous when approaching women is only natural. They have a tendency to crush men’s egos, after all. You never know what a woman is going to say, if she is going to be receptive to you, or even if she is going to turn out interesting.
If you are nervous when you approach women, it will come out in your manner. Nervous men are not very attractive. Learn to relax. Take a few deep breaths, count to ten, or say the alphabet in Spanish. Whatever it takes, use it to calm down.
Acting a little nonchalant around women is actually a challenge for them. They are use to men being attractive to them and pursuing them. If you act friendly but not too interested, many women find it intriguing. So relax, be interested but not too interested.
Know How To Carry On A Conversation
Talking to a woman is the hardest part of attracting them. If you dress well and have the courage and confidence to approach them that is only half the battle. Now that you are standing in front of them looking cool, you need to be able to carry on an interesting conversation.
If you don’t know what to say to a woman, work out some opening conversation starters beforehand. You don’t have to use cheesy pick-up lines to get things going. Just walking up, introducing yourself, and asking her about herself will do. If you know the woman ahead of time, you can be prepared to talk about something that interests her.
Make Eye Contact And Listen
Even if the woman is drop dead gorgeous and wearing a low cut dress, always retain eye contact. Roving your eyes up and down her body like assessing a piece of meat is insulting and shows that you are only interested in one thing.
Women want to look sexy and attractive. But they want men to like them for who they are, not as an object to be won. When trying to attract a woman, look her in the eye and listen to her. If you can get a woman talking about herself, then you’ve won. All you have to do is listen and respond to what she is saying. By responding, this shows you are interested in her as a person.
Humor Goes A Long Way
You may be a good-looking guy but if you can’t make her laugh, you are in deep trouble. Surveys have shown that women like a man with a sense of humor. Of course, they would like the whole package; looks, charm, and humor. But looks only go so far. To make a lasting impression, you need to make her laugh.
You can try to memorize jokes to tell but you don’t want to come off as a comedian practicing his material. You also don’t want to tell a bunch of off-color or dirty jokes. Having a sense of humor is having fun with the conversation to make people laugh. If you don’t know how, you need to practice it.
Having a sense of humor is more than just telling jokes. It also means that you don’t take things, including yourself, too seriously. You need to be able to laugh at yourself just as much as anything else. Women like a little humility in a man.
Understand Body Language
Women flirt with more than words. Body language tells a lot about whether a woman is interested in you or not. If they make steady eye contact and smile a lot, those are positive signs. Leaning towards you while you talk to them or lightly touching you is also a positive sign.
Signs that a woman is not attracted to you are if she will not look at you while you talk to her or if she leans away from you. Also look out for the arms folded in front of her or turning her shoulder to you.
Don’t Give Up
Rejection hurts but it is not the end of the world. If a woman is not attracted to you and she rejects your advances, then move on to the next one (not the one sitting next to her, of course. Someone farther way than that).
You need to be able to deal with rejection. If you gave up after the first rejection, you may never attract a woman. As the saying goes, develop a thick skin. If a woman is not attracted to you, then that just means you are probably not compatible together. Remember another famous saying: there are a lot more fish in the sea.
Don’t Be Too Eager
When you are trying to attract a woman, you don’t want to ask her for her phone number in the first few minutes. That is being too eager and desperate. Being too eager and desperate can make a woman feel very uneasy. You don’t want to come off as a stalker.
By being laid back and ‘playing it cool’, you can keep the woman at ease and feeling comfortable. When you meet a woman, draw it out. Don’t try putting your arm around her or trying to plant a kiss on her. Give it time and let the encounter slowly evolve on its own.
Being Friends Is Okay
Does every encounter with a woman need to end with a potential date? Sometimes it is okay to just make a friend. Why? There are two reasons to become friend with a woman you just met.
The first reason is that you can never have a shortage of good friends. A friend can help you out in hard times, they are fun to hang out with, and you can network them for future contacts for any number of reasons. Good friends are hard to come by so don’t dismiss them just because they are a woman.
The second reason it is good to be friends with a woman is because they are friends with other women; women who might be available. And here is another truth. Many women find men with a lot of female friends to actually be more attractive. The fact that a man has a lot of female friends is an indicator that they are compatible with women and that they understand women. Just remember that once you start dating, that which made you attractive will be the cause of a lot of jealousy.
Don’t Be A Player
Women can spot a player a mile away. You know the type of guys. These are the ones who have refined the art of picking up women. They may look good, dress well, have smooth opening lines, drive a nice car, or flash a lot of money around. The main intention of a player is to hook up with as many women as possible. The theory is quantity over quality. Players don’t look for lasting, meaningful relationships.
Players tend to be shallow and easy to figure. What they either don’t realize or dismiss is that most women are looking for a meaningful relationship. Don’t be a player. When trying to attract women, be genuinely interested in the woman for who she is, not what she looks like or whether she will go to bed with you. If you are a player, a woman will figure it out pretty quick.
Be Yourself
The best advice to give on how to be more attractive to women is just to be yourself. If you are really a nerd at heart, then be a nerd. Just be a cool one. If you like beer and sports, there is noting wrong with that. Just don’t let it consume your attention. Don’t hide your interests or hobbies just to attract women.
Just as women want men to love them for who they are, men want women to find them attractive for who they really are, too. If you are honest about the real you, you are going to find that someone who is right for you. Lies or being misleading will only work for a short time. But eventually, women find out the truth. Be honest up front.
